Male Slave Training
How to Approach A Mistress
Do write a polite, submissive, concise note outlining your specific interests
including your thresholds (i.e. light spanking, heavy CBT) and your current
level of experience.
Enclose whatever information or tribute she has requested or you may not
receive an answer. Write in the prescribed manner and fill in any health
questionnaires you might have been given. Dominas usually screen applicants by
discarding those that cannot approach them in the prescribed manner, or who fail
to follow contact and booking procedures.
Do Not send a photo or jpeg of yourself - unless specifically requested to do
Do include contact information (email, phone, pager), make sure your
information is on every page that you send her.
When Calling a Mistress
Yes of course you will be nervous first time. Remember to introduce yourself
first, speak slowly and clearly. Do not interrupt her when she is speaking.
Listen carefully to what she is telling you.
Do ask respectfully if the Mistress is seeing new clients.
Do ask her about her facilities.
Do ask about her experience level.
Do ask if she caters for people with your needs.
Do ask about her specialties, hours and tribute.
Do Not ask her to do anything illegal.
Do ask her questions as honestly as you can. Remember she is assessing you as
On being offered an appointment
Do confirm your appointment.
Do make sure you make a note of directions.
Do make sure you have understood the arrangements.
Do let her know as soon as possible if you have to cancel/rearrange.
Do not mess her about constantly changing your mind.
Do wash, clean teeth, dress properly - this includes clean toe nails!
Do Not Drink or take Drugs before your meeting.
DO LEAVE if you are unhappy about anything - cleanliness, lack of equipment -
wrong surroundings - different person from picture - under the influence of
drugs or alcohol.
Do as you are told.
Do give feedback.
Do use your safeword if you need to.
Remember No Sex means No Sex.
Do remember to say thank you when the session has ended. A reputable Mistress
will allow a debriefing period and may well have shower & bathing facilities.
You may well be given the opportunity to follow up after a session. Be open and
honest about what you got from your experience. You may just get the chance to