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BDSM/Fetish PLAY LIST

This BDSM/Fetish play list was inspired by many existing lists on the internet....it was prepared and is intended for educational purposes only and should not be used for commercial gain.

This is a BDSM/Fetish play list that may help couples figure out what their wants and needs are. You may not like play lists but sometimes they are good communication tools.

When someone fills it out they should indicate if they are filling it out for their ultimate Dominant/Top partner or for someone in particular, taking into consideration the nature of the relationship. In other words if you were filling it out for your longtime Dominant partner it would look different than if you were filling it out for a new casual play partner. Some of the answers would be different based on the nature of the relationship and the level of trust involved.

Please note; nothing in my opinion takes the place of chemistry and face to face communication.

How to fill out the forms;

A. Done it YES or NO

B. Indicate how you felt about it when you did it using the following indicators;

NO means you will NOT do that activity under any circumstances. Its a hard limit and will never happen with anyone. PERIOD! THE END! DON'T EVEN GO THERE!
0   means you HATE that activity, but you are willing to do it at least a little to please the Dominant/Top, but you would really rather not. It can also mean you are not able to do that activity with a casual play partner but in the right situation, like a committed relationship, you would be capable of doing it. And this is why communication will never take the place of a play list.
1   means you don't care much about it....under the right circumstances it might be fun...what the hell...ok you will try it.
2   means you're curious about it, not sure how you'll respond...in theory you think you will like it.....but you  reserve the right to hate it.
3   means it's pleasurable or fun....and you hope the Dominant/Top can make it more fun.
  means you love it, you get hot thinking about it....and you really really want to do it.
  means the activity is a wild turn-on, you want to do it more more more...all the time...AGAIN!!!

C.  Indicate for each item how you feel RIGHT NOW about doing that activity with the person who asked you to fill this BDSM/Fetish play list out, assuming there will be chemistry when you actually meet.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances. Its a hard limit and will never happen with anyone. PERIOD! THE END! DON'T EVEN GO THERE!
0   means you HATE that activity, but you are willing to do it at least a little to please the Dominant. It can also mean you are not able to do that activity with a casual play partner but in the right situation, like a committed relationship, you would be capable of doing it. And this is why communication will never take the place of a BDSM/Fetish play list.
1   means you don't care much about it....under the right circumstances it might be fun...what the hell...ok you will try it.
2   means you're curious about it, not sure how you'll respond...in theory you think you will like it.....but you  reserve the right to hate it.
3   means it's pleasurable or fun....and you hope the Dominant/Top can make it more fun.
  means you love it, you get hot thinking about it....and you really really want to do it.
  means the activity is a wild turn-on, you want to do it more more more...all the time...AGAIN!!!

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I, ________________, am filling this BDSM/Fetish play list out at the request of _______________ . 

My experience in BDSM is best described as (circle one);

None     Some     Casual     Serious     Extensive

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SEX

Is sex something you want in your BDSM relationship?

Define sex;

Define Safe Sex;

ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT

Anal penetration (penis)        
Anal penetration (object)        
Anal penetration (doing)        
Anal fisting (getting)        
Anilingus (giving)        
Anilingus (getting)        
Cock worship (doing)        
Cunnilingus (getting)        
Cunnilingus (giving)        
Cyber Sex        
Direct masturbation        
Double penetration (oral/anal)        
Double Penetration (vaginal/anal)        
Eating/drinking cum (others)        
Eating/drinking cum (own)        
Fantasy rape        
Fellatio (getting)        
Fellatio (giving)        
Group sex        
Intercourse        
Phone Sex        
Public Sex        
Strap-ons (receiving)        
Threesomes         
Triple Penetration        
Vaginal sex (penis)        
Vibrator/dildo        
         
         
         
         

BONDAGE

Degree of immobility or helplessness enjoyed (circle one) Light     Medium     Heavy

ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT

1-3 hour duration        
3-6 hour duration        
Overnight duration        
Arm sleeves        
Bondage (light)        
Bondage (heavy)        
Breast bondage        
Cages        
Ceiling/wall hooks        
Collars (leather)        
Collars (other)        
Cotton ropes        
Chains        
Cuffs (leather)        
Cuffs (other)        
Gags (ball)        
Gags (funnel)        
Gags (panties)        
Gags (other)        
Genital bondage        
Harnessing (suspended)        
Intricate rope bondage        
Leather restraints        
Mental bondage        
Mummification        
Nylon rope        
Saran wrapping        
Shackles        
Silk scarves        
Slings/swings        
Spreader-bars        
Spread-eagle        
Stocks        
Straightjackets        
Strapping - full body        
Suspension (on toes)        
Suspension (full)        
Suspension (inverted)        
         
         
         

PUNISHMENT

Do you respond to punishment?

Under what circumstances is punishment not ok?

ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT

Belt/strap        
Cane        
Denial of pleasure        
Fiberglass/plastic rod        
Isolation        
Leather Flogger        
Leather paddle        
Riding crop        
Rubber whip        
Ruler        
Silent Treatment        
Single lash        
Spanking        
Switch        
Wooden paddle        
Soap In Mouth        
         
         
         
         

ROLE PLAY

ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT

Pony        
Dog        
Cat        
Bunny        
Worm        
Whore        
Patient        
Nurse        
Victim        
Corpse        
Prison Inmate        
Slut        
Furniture        
Pig        
Maid        
Sissy        
Doll        
Kajira        
Baby        
Robot        
Stripper        
         
         
         
         

FETISH 

What items or types of play make the little man in your boat stand up and sing?

ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT

Boot worship        
Balloons        
Food        
Stuffed animals        
Restraints        
Bugs        
Shoes        
Stinky Feet        
Socks        
Stockings        
Masks        
Corsets (wearing)        
Corsets (on others)        
Voluntary X dressing        
Forced x dressing        
Public X dressing        
Uniforms        
Foot Worship        
High heel wearing        
High heel worship        
Latex wearing        
Latex, on others        
Rubber wearing        
Rubber on others        
Leather wearing        
Leather on others        
Feet        
Body Inflation        
Lactation        
Amazons        
Crush        
Canine        
Hair        
Pregnant Females        
Needles        
Blood        
Smoking        
Tickling        
Vampires        
Long Nails        
Dirty Panties        
Guns        
Knives        
         
         

HUMILIATION & EXHIBITIONISM

Is humiliation something you might get into?

What about being displayed in public?

What types of humiliation would be off limits?

ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT

Crossing dressing        
Crawling        
Dirty words        
Face slapping        
Foot kissing        
Kneeling        
Lead on leash        
Public display        
Public embarrassment        
Public sex        
Secret sex in public        
Verbal abuse        
Examination        
Inspection        
Objectification        
Toilet        
Forced Nudity        
Given Away        
Ashtray        
         
         
         

BODILY FUNCTIONS

ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT

Breath Control        
Brown showers, scat        
Catheterization        
Eating/drinking own waste        
Eating/drinking own cum        
Enemas        
Physical Examinations        
Golden showers        
Medical scenes        
Menstrual service        
Sweat        
Snot        
Spit        
Diapering        
         
         
         

INTENSE SENSATION AND IMPACT PLAY

ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT

Branding        
Caning        
Clip & Clamps        
Cock & Ball torture        
Cutting        
Electrical play        
Flogging        
Fire        
Hair Pulling        
Heat        
Hot Wax        
Needles (Play piercing)        
Paddling        
Pressure Points        
Punching        
Scratching (giving)        
Scratching (receiving)        
Slapping        
Spanking (hand)        
Spanking (other)        
Whipping (single tail)        
Whipping (other)        
         
         
         

OTHER STUFF

ITEM, DONE IT (YES OR NO) , HOW YOU FELT (NO OR 0 TO 5), WOULD LIKE TO DO IT (NO or 0 TO 5), COMMENT

Hoods (leather)        
Hoods (metal)        
Hoods (other)        
Blindfolds        
Head Harness        
Ice        
Interrogations        
Kidnapping        
Massage - getting        
Massage - giving        
Piercing (permanent)        
Photographs        
Romantic play        
Sensory deprivation        
Shaving        
Tattoos        
Teasing        
Voyeurism        
Videoed scenes        
Wrestling        
         
         
         
         
         

For you, the turn on of BDSM is:  (rate from 1 to 6 with 1 being most erotic):

ITEM, VALUE, COMMENT

Visual    
Psychological    
Aural (sound)    
Sensory-intense    
Emotional    
Sensual-erotic    
other;

 

   

What positions have the highest erotic value for you (rate from 1 to 6 with 1 being most erotic):

Standing bondage    
Lying on back    
Lying face down    
Hands & Knees    
Kneeling    
other;

 

   

What toys have the highest erotic value for you (1=some interest; 2=pretty exciting; 3=very erotic)

ITEM, VALUE, COMMENT

Whips    
Floggers    
Canes    
Paddles    
Electrical toys    
Ropes    
Chains    
Leather Restraints    
Wax    
Knives    
Nipple clamps    
Clothespins    
Paddles    
Uniforms    
Dildoes    
Vibrators    
Butt plugs    
Gags    
Handcuffs    
Blindfolds    
Belts    
Harnesses & Slings    
Boots/shoes    
Clothing    
Collars    
     
     
     
     
     
     
     

How do you usually like it? (use all that apply)
(N) never, (T) thuddy, (S) stingy, (L) light, (M) medium , (H) heavy , (?) unsure

Back   
Butt  
Breasts   
Face  
Feet   
Genitals  
Shoulders  
Thighs  
   
   

These activities interest me and why;

Discipline

 

 
Punishment

 

 
Mental Domination

 

 
NLP

 

 
Non Consensual

 

 
Exhibitionism

 

 
Humiliation

 

 
Swapping

 

 
Fantasy Rape

 

 
Fear Play

 

 
Bondage

 

 
Sensory Deprivation

 

 
Forced Feminization

 

 
Role Play

 

 
Public Play

 

 
Hypnosis

 

 
Suspension

 

 
Mummification

 

 
Extreme Punishment

 

 
Extreme Pain

 

 
Long Term Service

 

 
Slavery

 

 
 

 

 
 

 

 
 

 

 

Your biggest fantasy is;

Your favorite scene was;

Your worst scene was;

Your biggest fears are;

How do you feel about Polyamory?

Do you consider yourself Poly or Monogamous?

What parts of your body are most erotically sensitive?

What parts of your Dom's body would you most like to pleasure?

List any known limits for the specific play partner this questionnaire is being prepared for;

What disease screenings have you had (dates) and what were the outcomes?

What disease screenings are you willing to get?

What disease screenings are you unwilling to get and why?

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For the Tops/Dominants;

My experience in BDSM is best described as (circle one);

None     Some     Casual     Serious     Extensive

I as the Top/Dominant have the following limits;

What safewords will be used and what are their specific meanings?

My style of BDSM is best described as;

If you couldn't use toys, pain or sex, how would you Dominate your submissive/bottom?

 

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Dominant/Top's Real Name is ________________________

Place of Employment_________________________

Employer Phone # __________________

I, _____________________, give _________________ permission to contact my place of employment and verify my name and employment. I understand this info will be given to the safe call person of the  play partner when we meet in real life.

Member of the following BDSM organizations;

References;

 

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Submissive/bottom's Real Name is ________________________

Place of Employment_________________________

Employer Phone # __________________

I, _____________________, give _________________ permission to contact my place of employment and verify my name and employment. I understand this info will be given to the safe call person of the  play partner when we meet in real life.

Member of the following BDSM organizations;

References;

 

 

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